Author:James (Steve) Clay, MABC, LPC
As a matter of habit, being the generally friendly guy that I am, I often find myself engaging in conversations with other men at the gym, seeking an opening to talk about the Lord. What is also often the case is that I find a brother in Christ, who shares a common faith and wants to talk about things pertaining to Christian life. At other times, men are open to talk about Christ but have no faith of their own. With all that said, the point of my concern in this blog is that of what appears to me as a dichotomy of two opposing worldviews held by a person claiming to know Christ. What I have in mind in particular is that of a Christian man’s view of women and his battle against (or giving into) the flesh.
Author:James (Steve) Clay, MABC, LPC
One of the greatest dangers facing the Christian church today is our tendency to evaluate the essence of our faith by paradigms borrowed from the surrounding culture. It is not uncommon that these paradigms are based on how to know your needs and then find how God is useful in meeting them. Many are the books written to help us with this, labeled with a “how to” subtitle. We live in a pragmatic culture, where things are valued and pursued based on their usefulness. And usefulness is related to immediacy and good feelings, identity and position. The way we understand Christianity and try to live it out is oftentimes affected by the misguided and foolish notion that it (being a Christian) is a means to a greater end—that end being getting more of the stuff we want now and less of the stuff of life that we don’t want. The gospel is reduced from an authoritative revelation from God that is true and necessary to a means that is useful in meeting needs as defined by man. It is a sad commentary on the Christian church of today that it is more affected by this pernicious disease of pragmatism, learned from a materialistic culture, than it is affecting the culture by pointing to the greatest value, namely God Himself.
Author:James (Steve) Clay, MABC, LPC
Each of us has a way of thinking and living that grows out of what we believe will make us right, make us happy, and make us secure, something that will give us identity and purpose. We all seek treasure, satisfaction, and security. Our natural tendency is to seek this apart from God. By this, however, it not meant that God is necessarily excluded from our lives, but rather that if He is considered at all, He is used instead of worshiped, and manipulated rather than trusted. The question about the seeking is whether this will be found in God or something else that might involve God, but isn’t God. Among these things we call “something else” are religious systems—ways of dealing with reality without giving up self-reliance and pride.
Author:James (Steve) Clay, MABC, LPC
Sin that causes us to shrink from God has several aspects. Two of those aspects have legal and social implications. Because we stood guilty before God prior to His work of regeneration in our hearts, God’s legal view of us was one of condemnation. But because Christ absorbed our death sentence, thereby taking away our guilt, we no longer live under God’s condemnation (Romans 8:1). Secondly, because our sin causes God’s displeasure and rejection, in that He cannot look upon or relate with the sinful, we feel that displeasure as shame. Rejection by God is the ultimate revelation of our condition, which results in the internal experience of shame and the external response of hiding. The social aspect of our sin is that it causes us to run from God, in fear of His rejection. But now in Christ, believers have been given His perfect righteousness (2 Corinthians 5:21), and thus have been declared righteous (justification). Because sin has been paid for and forgiven, we are encouraged to draw near to God. He who was once our judge is now our Father. We who were once “not his people” are now “his people” (Romans 9:25-26). In Christ both the legal and social aspects of our sinful condition have been taken care of.
Read more: Out of Hiding and Into His Presence – Drawing Near to God Part Two
Author:James (Steve) Clay, MABC, LPC
In our last blog we were dealing with the issue of shame. We learned that as shame painfully exposes that something is badly wrong with me, my reaction is to hide. Adam and Eve were our progenitors in this malady of the soul. We all have shame, but there are many different ways in which we cope with it. All are some form of hiding. Escapisms, for example, are one form of dealing with the discomfort of shame. Excessive use of a substance that changes my mood and internal experience seems to help me feel more like I'd prefer. I'm running from the reality that makes me deal with my feelings of being broken and incapable. Denial is another way to hide. I try to convince myself that things are different than they really are by distorting the facts and reasoning with myself in a way that conforms to the reality I want but that is not true. Control is another way to hide. Those of us who struggle with anxiety know all too well the discomfort of impending or supposed danger, in which my resources, though all I really trust, are simply not enough. I hide in endless worry, seeking solutions to projected problems in field of view. Rather than face my greater problem of futile effort resulting from limited understanding and personal resources, I worry and fret. The result is wearying mental and physical activity that ends in depression and despair. In the end, all forms of dealing with the nagging feeling that something is badly wrong is a form of hiding from others and, ultimately and most importantly, God.
Read more: Out of Hiding and Into His Presence -- Drawing Near to God Part One
Author:James (Steve) Clay, MABC, LPC
Shame is the universal condition. Shame is that sense that something is wrong—badly wrong—with me. Because of it, I duck and run, hide and disguise, avoid exposure, play it safe. We are all infected with it. We don’t detect it, or don’t recognize it as shame, but we all have it. It’s ours because we are defective, broken, and grossly less than our Creator intended. Shame profoundly affects us all.